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Why I need bisexual!Stiles

tzzzztz:

After posting a TW fic dealing a lot with bisexual issues, I have suddenly had so many bisexual!stiles feelings.

I’ve come to realize that I absolutely could care less whether Sterek becomes canon (I’d actually lean towards not), but I need bisexual!Stiles to be canon so, so badly.

Why?

1.  Representation

Bisexuality isn’t treated too well on TV and in movies (Jack Harkness and 13 excepted).  In main characters, it’s usually either a stopping point on the way to homosexuality or an experimentation meant to titillate the audience.  In supporting characters, it’s almost always portrayed negatively: a sexy villain being manipulative, a repressed homosexual masquerading as bi, a bi-curious person abusing the affections of a gay character.  

Seeing people being accepting of bisexuals (especially Male bisexuals, who many people, gay and straight, seem to think are as rare as unicorns) is just as important as seeing people being accepting of homosexuals.

2.  A safe portrayal of coming out

I’ve never seen coming out as bi being really dealt with.  There’s plenty of coming out as gay, but those things are actually very different.  They are admitting to the same thing, but the social pressures are very different.  A gay person has to deny their entire sexuality in the closet, while a bi person only has to ignore one side of it.  A gay person can’t openly have sex or be in a relationship, while a bi person has the same relationship opportunities as a straight person (which is to say, a lot).  A gay person is usually pretty sure they’re gay.  A bi person normally has some doubts.  Homosexuality (though considered a sin by many) has a community of like-minded individuals on the other side of the closet and the “rules” of that community are relatively well-defined and predictable.  Bisexuals don’t have a parade waiting for them (they can potentially shunned by both gay and straight), even if they could potential face the exact same negative consequences as a gay person.  

A lot of bisexual people will look at the risks and think they’re not really giving up that much by sticking to straight relationships compared to the consequences of being out.  They might just decided to stay in the closet out of mere convenience.  There’s no gun to their heads, but the psychological effects of staying in the closet (denial of identity, secret-keeping, repression, self-persecution) are relatively similar.

3.  Teen Wolf has already positioned itself perfectly to portray a bisexual character realistically coming to terms with his sexuality

I was really happy to see an interview with Jeff Davis in which he admits that the writers have deliberately hinted that Stiles is bi.  Of course, a lot of Teen Wolf fans get mad and call this queer-baiting or see it as a sign that Sterek will happen.  But to me, all of those little “hints” ring true to how it actually is to come to terms with bisexuality: 

A.  Stiles never openly identifies as bi.  This is actually very realistic for someone who is a virgin with both sexes.  For a young person, who’s just starting their sexual journey, bisexuality is a vexing problem.  A gay person is gay even if they’ve never had sex with someone of the same sex, but a bisexual may not feel they have the “right” to come out until they’ve actually been in a gay relationship.  They might not feel they’ve “earned” inclusion into a persecuted community, because they blend in when they want to (the label of bi-curious is actually really patronizing, when you think about it).  Or they might not feel like it’s worth the risk of coming out if they ultimately end up with a heterosexual partner anyway.  

B.  Stiles is unusually interested in homosexuality.  His persistant desire to know if gay people find him attractive (especially the way he falls out of his chair pestering Danny about it) is more than showing that he has no problem with homosexuality.  It’s like a scab he can’t stop picking.  Straight people are interested in homosexuality and happy to be included, but a desperation to constantly be accepted by the gay community and a fear that he won’t be speaks to an underlying issue.

C.  Stiles is constantly making jokes about being gay.  A lot of straight people do this too, but it is also a way for someone who is bi or thinks they might be bi to test the waters and gauge whether they would be accepted by their loved ones.  If they get a negative reaction they feel safe they can always write it off as a joke.  I think he’s actually very desperate to know that he would be accepted by Scott, in particular.  Probably the biggest fear (other than gay bashing) that I think most bisexuals have is that their straight friends will think they actually are attracted to them.  His comment about finding Scott’s heroism attractive is seriously baiting Scott into a reaction and Scott reaction is ambiguos.  Scott is obviously not homophobic, but he doesn’t give Stiles a serious answer either, just kind of blows him off.

D.  Stiles is really insulted that his father doesn’t think he could be gay.  Even if someone isn’t ready to admit they are bisexual yet, even if they might react very negatively to being accused of being bi, being boxed in by others as “definitely straight” is the worst thing to hear, since being bisexual is inherently about not really fitting in any boxes.  It means that no one else is accepting of the idea enough to admit it’s a possibility.  He’s angry that his father won’t talk about it, even if he’s not ready to actually talk about it.  Like in my recently posted fic, the Sheriff is going to have to work extra hard to get Stiles to trust him enough to come out.

E.  Stiles definitely notices other guys.  He doesn’t just notice them in terms of “hey, how did he get those abs,” he notices the things particular things about them that make them attractive to gay guys.  He knows that Scott being adorable will get him more attention in a gay club.  He knows immediately when Derek takes his shirt off that it’s something that would be interesting to Danny.  Stiles is otherwise kind of bad at reading the intentions of others (mostly because he has a kind of Stiles-centric world-view), so the fact that he knows these things is more likely than not because he’s noticed them himself.

All those lingering stares and gape-mouthed looks that he gives Derek aren’t actually a sign that the Sterek ship has set sail.  They’re a sign that Stiles is attracted to Derek (at least physically).  If he were bi, it’d be kind of hard to believe that he’s not attracted to Derek.

F.  Stiles has overcompensated with his heterosexuality.  When bisexuals aren’t ready to come to terms with their homosexual tendencies, it’s normally not straight-up denial.  It’s more a bait-and-switch.  I don’t want to think about how I like that guy, so I’ll focus on how much I like this girl instead.

Stiles is capable of having meaningful interactions with women (he gets along great with Allison and even on the first episode, he’s having a normal conversation with a girl) and he knows that he should try to not look at Erica’s breasts, but he treats Lydia like she isn’t even a person for a really long time, even when he clearly cares about her.  His pursuit of her is comically over-the-top.  It’s like he’s watched a lot of teenaged movies about how a guy should behave and is copying it.  She’s both the genuine object of his affection and a way to throw himself completely into heterosexuality and not think about the rest.

Stiles as bisexual is so, so easy to believe at this point, the producers just need the courage to bring it home.

4.  What needs to happen

A.  Stiles needs to has a genuine moment of questioning his sexuality in front of someone (hopefully Scott).  This would make the subtext into text and if done in a “serious” way, would aid both in representation and show that it’s okay to just question or share your doubt with a friend.  The person he shares it with should be accepting and actually help him deal with it, even if they have some conflicting feelings about the information.

B.  Stiles need to have a homosexual crush on someone in particular.  I would love for it to be Derek, just because their interactions in that regard would be hilarious (so much awkwardness and grumpiness) and because could be a plot point in a lot of ways (causing conflict with Scott, freaking Derek out with regards to the underaged thing, wondering if he’s helping Derek because it’s the right thing to do or just because he wants to get in Derek’s pants).  I don’t think the crush needs to be returned or be a series regular.  We just need to see a specific instance for the sake of authenticity and I think it’s good to really acknowledge that homosexual crushes are just like any other crush: sometimes they’re hopeless.

C.  Stiles needs to have a homosexual experience.  If we’re going for true representation, those show needs to go all the way, because male bisexuals make people uncomfortable and that needs to stop.  We need a male character who straight male viewers are going to identify with and straight female viewers are going to be attracted to and make him have a gay experience.  It will piss some people off, but anything less would be a cop-out.

I’m not saying that the show needs to go so far as to put Stiles in a homosexual LTR.  I think that would probably alienate too many fans to be truly feasible (maybe in a few more years people will be ready for it), especially because it would also strain credibility (bisexual guys aren’t unicorns, but they are a little too rare to believably have two of them in a cast of seven).  There’s also not really a lot of room in the story to give Stiles a primary romance (because he’s also needed for comic relief and exposition).  Scott has the OTP and Stiles’s roll in the story is clearly to represent the guy that gets kind of kicked around in teenaged romance.

I would love to see Stiles having a fling with a guy.  Maybe he loves the guy and the guy just wants sex.  Maybe Stiles wants sex and they guy gets obsessive and evil about him.  Maybe Stiles gets lead around by his dick straight into danger, but is still glad he did it.  Maybe it’s a vacation fling or a friends with benefits situation or he and Derek have really fucked up sex one time and then are awkward afterwards.

D.  He needs to come out.  Not to everyone and not in a “let me sit you all down and explain that I’m AC/DC kind of way,” but in the way most bisexuals end up coming out: just kind of mentioning it in passing and hoping that everyone accepts it or being pleasantly surprised that it’s a non-event.  That’s really the end game: to show a bisexual male character that is comfortable enough in their sexuality that they can just put it out there.

A note on Scott McCall

athenadark:

I’m seeing this over and over and I have to weigh in.

You can dislike a character’s actions and actually like them. This is no different from considering your friend a dick but the difference is you can call your friend out for their behavior. This doesn’t mean that they’re not your friend any more, or you’re planning their elaborate murder.

Liking a character, despite their flaws, does not mean that everyone else in the show is a villain and you must find some terrible thing to accuse them of. In this case you’re the dick.

Scott McCall is a well written, well rounded character, he can be a little dumb, but he’s brave, he can be arrogant and he can be impossibly sweet. However this doesn’t mean that Derek Hale is immediately an abuser because he and Scott don’t get on. This doesn’t mean Stiles is racist for calling him on his bullshit. This means he’s a well written, well rounded character who is a complex paradox of contradictory aspects - just like a real person.

Calling Scott on his bullshit doesn’t mean that you hate the character. It doesn’t mean that you’re bashing him, it means you’re admitting that the character has flaws.

A good character is flawed, they should have aspects we don’t like, otherwise we scream Gary Stu and complain. I’m calling out the Scott fans because they are the worst for this, or at least the most vocal. He’s a sweet kid, but he’s not the second coming of Christ, and admitting he has flaws does not threaten your view of him as the most perfect character ever.

Two people can have an intelligent discussion about how the character is flawed and different interpretations of a scene without it turning into a wank, however when you chip in and your only comments are that the poster is an idiot who can’t read, doesn’t understand or possibly not seen the show - congrats, you can now go live under a bridge with the other trolls. Debate encourages thoughts and new ideas, name calling and insults condemn you to a life of scaring the billy goats gruff.

The Scott fans are, at the moment, earning themselves a bad reputation as wank trolls because they jump to the character’s defense at a moment’s notice, actually copying the worst of Scott’s behavior ironically, or even asking if the character is in threat of bashing. Instead of head-desking or whatever it is you’re doing, prove the poster wrong with actual examples. Don’t shout Derek is an abuser, go Derek can be considered abusive because of…. otherwise guess what, Troll.

Perhaps you don’t realize it. You can argue with someone without being trollish, you can have a completely different view point, you might even make them see your point of view, if you argue well, but refusing to listen and using abusive terms that have absolutely no point in the argument especially in regards to the original poster- that’s what makes you a troll, worse, that’s what makes you a wank troll.

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IF THIS VIDEO DOESN’T CONVINCE YOU TO GO WATCH THIS SHOW IMMEDIATELY  THEN YOU LACK A SOUL. 

Dear god that was amazing.

OK, yeah, this is pretty awesome.

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